This WILL happen when you finish school

I don’t really think it’s sank in yet that I’ve finished school.

Like for good. Forever.

As in, I’m never gonna take that same old route, put on that shitty uniform, sit in that classroom.

13 years. Over. Just like that.

So what now?

A question that keeps running through my head since the end of school is:

“How many of my friends were really my friends?”

You know, when you’re in school you sit next to all these people in lessons or at lunch.

You chat sh*t about the teacher or the homework.

You’re chill with them.

But how many of them have I actually spoken to since school ended?

Like 2? 3?

What I’ve realised is that a lot of my “friendships” were really just formed by being in close proximity, every day for so many years.

We were shoved into this same building over and over again, to the point where we started to have some familiarity and form some sort of bond.

But here’s the problem with that:

The ONLY THING we really had in common the whole time was school.

So now that that’s taken away, I’m starting to see the difference between the people who really were my friends, and the people that I was just “cool” with.

And there’s a big f*cking difference.

The same sort of thing happens with a lot of these “instant gratification” activities.

Maybe you always play video games or talk about this Netflix show to this group of friends.

Here’s a test to weed out the fake friends:

Stop.

Stop playing the game, stop watching the show.

How many of these people still talk to you?

What happens is that you’re not actually friends with each other.

You’re both friends with the video game, and you just play it together.

It’s like 2 guys chasing this one girl pretending to be friends with each other so it isn’t too awkward.

You’re third-wheeling.

Once school ends, or you stop playing the game, it weeds out the fake friends, and you can find the real ones.

But what if this leaves you with no one?

That’s on you. You haven’t invested enough energy into actually finding true friends.

Ask questions. Have deep conversations. Grow together.

That’s how you find the real homies.

That’s all, peace out.

-Yvan