YOU Are A LOSER...

Imagine that you were born attractive.

You were taught good social skills. You naturally had that lean fuckboy physique. You had friends, you got girls.

Now thank God that you didn't have any of these things.

Being a loser is probably the greatest gift you could have ever received. I know it can be hard to see that now, when you are right in the middle of your loser-ship, you feel lonely, unloved, unattractive - but hear me out on this.

The problem is, if you had all these things, you wouldn't see anything wrong with how you are living your life - and how the majority are living it (or destroying it) too.

You wouldn't see anything wrong with social media addiction, using drugs, alcohol, all these things - and so you would never have changed.

Because let’s be honest here for a second bro - why did you first start improving yourself?

To get girls. To make friends. To stop being broke.

And now, this has led you down this beautiful journey of improving your mental health, your physical health, educating yourself and learning to become happy with life.

I used to be so awkward in social situations. I would start stuttering and sweating whenever any of the cool guys talked to me. I couldn't hold eye contact for even 2 seconds when I was talking to a girl.

Most people say “oh, I couldn’t talk to girls”, as in they didn’t know all the pick-up lines, how to rizz someone up - No, like I literally could not talk to girls. I’d seize up, I’d literally avoid social situations so I wouldn’t have to even run the risk of getting into a conversation.

But I'm so grateful for that.

When I started my journey to self-mastery, I found it so much easier to cut off all my friends who were negative influences, and focus on myself.

Imagine I had a vibrant social life, and had formed close bonds with some of these degenerate guys? Going out, getting drunk, taking drugs, social media addiction, casual sex.

I would never have been able to improve - I was that close to being sucked in.

But if you had all the genetic gifts that you complain about - this would have led to complacency.

You would have nothing to strive for - you would have no reason to improve yourself. Something I learned from the book “Psycho-Cybernetics” is that humans (especially men) feel most fulfilled and happy when working towards a goal.

Imagine you are riding the bicycle of life (weird analogy, I know, just stick with me here.) When you’re pedalling, when you’re moving forwards at a steady speed, everything is great - your bike is balanced.

But as soon as you stop moving - that’s when you lose balance. That’s when you have to stick out a leg onto the ground to stop yourself toppling over.

In the same way, in life, when you are moving towards a goal, whether it is building a business, building an aesthetic physique, really building anything - that’s when you feel the most balanced, the most happy - it’s when you stop moving forwards that it becomes very difficult to stay that way.

Something Alex Hormozi (entrepreneur with a net worth of $100 million+) once said something that really stuck out to me. The most successful people don’t just have something they are chasing, they also have something they are trying to get away from.

So the best way to super-charge your progress is not just to have some reward you are chasing, that dream life you want to achieve - but also to be running away from something behind you. Running away from your past, from that feeling of being a loser.

Use that feeling. Use that pain, that embarrassment, that loneliness that you feel right now. This is your superpower. Instead of wasting that energy on video games, social media, jacking off - harness it.

Channel that pain, that resentment, that aggression into something productive. Something that will change your life for the better.

And the beauty is, with every difficulty that you have, you can learn to overcome it - and then teach others how you to do the same.

This is the foundation of business - you find a way to solve a problem, then teach others how to do it too. If you had no problems, or never overcame any, what can you teach?

Nothing.

Hope this letter gave you a different perspective on your situation.

Until next time,

Yvan