To Anyone Who's STILL A VIRGIN

So you’re a virgin.

You see all the other guys in your class hooking up with girls, getting into relationships, and you feel left out. You feel like you’re not invited to the party.

You feel like a loser.

Maybe you get teased by some of the guys in your class that you have no contact with any girls. So you just want to shut them up - to see all their faces when you finally get a girl and prove them all wrong. When you finally lose your virginity, and you get the respect of all the popular guys in your class. Everyone starts dapping you up, “ayyy, my guy, come on!”

Snap out of it.

Listen bro.

Having a relationship with a girl you truly love is a beautiful thing. I’m not gonna tell you to lock yourself up in a cave and avoid any female contact for 20 years. Quite the opposite - half my videos are literally teaching you how to be more comfortable in social situations, including with girls.

But the mindset that modern culture promotes, that you have to lose your virginity at 16, at 15, at 14 years old, is not only really weird and creepy - it’s also so destructive to your life. To your future.

And ironically, it actually reduces your chances of ever losing your virginity, because you’re always so desperate and needy. You feel like you can never be happy until you get a girlfriend. Of course you’re going to be clingy and weird around girls!

So think to yourself right now bro. Why do you really want a girlfriend? Why do you really want to lose your virginity?

Is it so you can have a beautiful relationship with a girl you’ll marry in the future?

Or is it so you can get the respect of these random 15 year old boys in your class?

Let’s be honest, it’s probably the second option. But that’s the thing bro - are you really going to dedicate your whole life to something just because of what other people think is cool?

I can tell you from experience bro that if you get a girl just for that reason, just for the sake of having a girlfriend, it's not worth it.

Hanging around a girl who you don't even have anything in common with? Who you don't even like? Just because she is a female and other people respect you for it?

You're living out someone else's dreams.

Because I know you man. I know this isn’t your dream. You’ve been working hard on yourself, developing your mental health, building up your discipline and working hard on your physique. You’ve been consuming interesting and intellectual content to educate yourself.

You don’t want some drunk bitch who watches tiktok and hooks up with you at the end of the night at a party. What work did she do to deserve you? Put on some makeup?

If you really take some time to think about it in the long term, what do you really want?

You want love, probably a beautiful, feminine wife and a blissful, stable, long-term relationship. So don't go rushing, panicking, being desperate for any girl you can possibly get right now.

And imagine you did go and do all the hard work, you get the body, you develop your style, your social skills, you finally attract a girl, then you go up to the haters and say "hah! I did it! I proved you wrong! I got a girlfriend!"

What do you think they're going to say?

It’s not going to be that big, triumphant, victorious moment that you have been imagining in your mind all this time.

They're going to think "you did all that just because of me?"

You're letting them live rent free in your head bro.

If you meet a great girl who you actually love and are attracted to, who you can clearly envisage being your future wife, then 100% bro. Go for it, have that beautiful relationship. I’m with you all the way. I’m happy for you.

But desperately doing everything you can to get any sort of bitch, just so you can prove some 16 year old kids wrong is not it bro.

Do it for yourself.

Hope this gave you some food for thought.

Until next week,

Yvan